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How do I get my man to understand that I like randomly receiving flowers? And not just flowers on Valentine’s Day please

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Anonymous 4d

Fucking tell him that

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Anonymous 4d

“My love language is receiving flowers. It makes me feel special and loved.”

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Anonymous 3d

Hit him in the head with a vase a couple times he’ll get the hint…

Anonymous 3d

If I knew then I’d be getting flowers

Anonymous 3d

If Lego flowers didn't wheel him in he just doesn't want to do it

Anonymous 3d

get a new one

Anonymous 4d

Get him flowers and explain

Anonymous 4d

I'm sorry to hear you've clearly had such a struggle with it. Little unconventional advice, but what are your thoughts on picking him flowers? When I was younger, I never understood the value of spontaneous gift giving because I never received it (except for a number of confusing cases where the gift was something more confusing than flowers).

Anonymous 4d

If he doesn’t know, he’ll never learn. That’s from his upbringing. 😐😐🫠

Anonymous 3d

Easy, just get a girlfriend instead #dontletyourbfstopyoufromfindingyourwife

Anonymous 3d

If you’ve told him and hey still doesn’t do it or care then I’d assess the relationship. What else does he know you like and doesn’t do? It’s a small thing that can be indicative of a larger issue. Ie he doesn’t care about you / your interests at the same level you might his. Which will definitely cause issues down the road.

Anonymous 3d

Bruh real. I literally had to tell my bf and we had a big argument about it too. But he’ll randomly give me them sometimes but still does the bare minimum of not even taking the price tag off. But basically you just have to tell him cause boys can be clueless. :/

Anonymous 3d

you can’t! hope this helps ❤️

Anonymous 3d

Every time you walk by some say sum like “oh my gosh how pretty it would be so nice to have some” like passive af

Anonymous 3d

“I like randomly receiving flowers, not just on valentine’s day and special occasions”

Anonymous 3d

get a new one.

Anonymous 4d

Ask *nicely*

Anonymous 3d

Ok he doesn't want to do it for you then. And you need to figure out if that's a deal breaker or not

Anonymous 3d

Communicate them that it makes them happy and you would appreciate it

Anonymous 3d

tell him you heard a great idea from some guy and say your idea. Men only listen if they think another guy says it

Anonymous 3d

i wish i got flowers from a man😔

Anonymous 3d

Listen I’ve read through these comments and given what I’ve heard from you if he will not listen to your love language then he isn’t worth your time or happiness. You have told him multiple times in multiple ways that it’s important to you and love language is very important in a healthy relationship and if he won’t understand that then he’s not the one for you :/

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Anonymous 3d

He don’t like you sis! A man that likes does whatever he can to make you happy

Anonymous 4d

You need to sit down and communicate each other’s needs on a weekly basis, at least. Even with something as little as wanting flowers. It’s your preferred way of receiving love and that’s worth sharing but you can’t blame anyone for overlooking that if you don’t communicate it. As someone who has been through several unhealthy relationships, trust me. You live and you learn.

Anonymous 3d

Find a new guy

Anonymous 3d

Unfortunately boyfriends can’t read our minds. I boyfriend I wanted some and he would get it for me whenever he visits and two weeks later I would tell him how the flowers died and I wanted new ones. Now every time he visits me he gets me and my mom flowers 😝

Anonymous 4d

It’s about the taught of it most girls don’t care if the flower is dead

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Anonymous 4d

i couldn’t get a woman to do it so good luck with a man

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Anonymous 3d

Commenting to find the answer

Anonymous 3d

Everytime you go to the store say wow these are beautiful and send him tik toks of random flowers from boyfriends

Anonymous 3d

Bro your post is a major exaggeration of your situation. Not just valentines day and he does it 2 times in 3 months is a bit of a stretch 💀

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Anonymous 3d

Do you like randomly given head?

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Anonymous 4d

this shits so corny bro😭 what the fuck you need flowers randomly for

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Anonymous

#3 4d

I’ve tried many times over the past year we’ve been together with no luck lol

Anonymous

#1 4d

I’ve tried telling him, wording it differently every time, it never works lol

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Anonymous

OP 4d

Shit the he doesn’t like you that much

Anonymous

sunshinec 4d

I’ve tried pretty much that exact wording with no luck lol

Anonymous

#1 4d

He doesn’t understand the “point” of buying flowers, since they die and all

Anonymous

OP 4d

If you were direct then i would def have a serious conversation about that in the near future

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Anonymous

#3 4d

We are both in college and very broke, but campus has flowers that can be picked. 2 times in the last 3 months he’s picked either wave petunias or mums for me, 2 or 3 flowers. Which I guess is better than nothing

Anonymous

OP 4d

With my husband I had to match energy before he listened. With an ex he never did and I had to realize that he didn’t love me or he would care and show it

Anonymous

#4 4d

That’s not a bad idea. I brought up that once and he said it would be weird since guys never receive flowers lol. Maybe I’ll do that!

Anonymous

sunshinec 4d

One of my exes used to get me flowers once a week for the whole time we were together, which was 4 1/2 months. I guess I’m still used to the idea of receiving flowers like that all the time and how special it made me feel.

Anonymous

#6 4d

Because it’s my love language, and if I received flowers on a random day, I would literally break down crying out of happiness because I love flowers

Anonymous

#1 4d

Exactly, I do not care, if the flowers die, I’m going to save them and use them in resin projects because I like to do resin

Anonymous

OP 4d

that shits corny as fuck dawg

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Anonymous

#6 4d

Maybe you’ve just never been in a happy loving relationship then

Anonymous

OP 4d

If the problem to him is they die suggest live flowers. Husband doesn’t buy cut flowers only house plants

Anonymous

#6 4d

Some people like corny

Anonymous

OP 4d

been in my current relationship for 2 years nd we couldn’t be happier 😂✌🏽 she dont ask for random flowers because that shits corny dawg

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Anonymous

sunshinec 4d

Exactly, I love corny. I love going on dates, and taking pictures, I love living out romance movies.

Anonymous

OP 4d

BRO THAT SHITS UNREALISTIC

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Anonymous

sunshinec 4d

My boyfriend also loves Legos, so I have suggested Lego flowers, since there are cheap sets with two or three flowers in it, and then we would get to spend the time making them, and then I would get to look at them every day

Anonymous

#6 4d

Again, if you were in a happy loving relationship, you would get to live out these moments, because most of those moments I do get to live out with him

Anonymous

OP 4d

maybe i’m low maintenance but 2 times in the last three months as a broke college student doesn’t seem so bad

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Anonymous

#6 4d

She probably wants flowers once in a while, but once she brings it up it no longer holds any meaning

Anonymous

#7 4d

Those two times of those little campus flowers have been so nice. This post is mainly bc he doesn’t get the point of buying flowers for me even though I’ve explained what they mean to me

Anonymous

OP 4d

Honestly if you are counting gifts and tracking time between there is a deeper issue

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Anonymous

OP 4d

that nga prolly cheatin on yo ass🤣✌🏽 me nd my girl have a relationship deeper than emotions and we from the jump have never done that corny shi, a long healthy relationship should be built on trust and commitment not corny fucking dates😂✌🏽

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Anonymous 4d

Mmm I’m not single actually, we’ve been together for over a year now and have a kitten together

Anonymous 4d

But you just said he has gotten you flowers 2 in the last 3 months. That is once in a while

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Anonymous

OP 4d

ahh what i’ve done with stuff like that is explaining stuff that i do for him that is similar. Like for instance, he likes watching football but he wants me to watch it with him. I don’t enjoy watching but I’ll do it anyways to make him happy. I’d try and find something that you do to make him happy that you wouldn’t normally do and compare it with flowers. That was he can understand that he should do it to make you happy

Anonymous

#7 4d

That’s smart

Anonymous

#6 4d

No reason to bring the n word in please. This is a civil discussion. We have a relationship built on God and trust and understanding. We both like planning corny dates because that’s what we enjoy. Each relationship is different and that’s okay.

Anonymous

#6 4d

It’s not unrealistic. Flowers are reasonably priced, and show thoughtfulness even when there isn’t an exact reason (holiday, argument, whatever). I always thought the idea was silly until after my breakup and now I just wanna find someone to buy flowers for. Just cause it’s not your love language doesn’t mean it’s corny

Anonymous

OP 3d

I would be careful with this one. This is technically emotional manipulation, and well some people will just drop you over that.

Anonymous

OP 3d

that’s the problem he doesn’t think it’s important himself and isn’t thinking about how it’s important to you. You can tell him all day long until you’re blue in the face but he has to choose that it’s more important than him understanding it.

Anonymous

#10 3d

they always realize after your gone. maybe you need to go on a break so he can open his eyes

Anonymous

#13 3d

most of the time isn’t not just the fact he’s not buying you flowers. The flowers are to make up for all the other shit you brush under the rug. If you need a sign this is it. There’s someone out there that will give you the world without you even opening your mouth. I know that some guys need communicated what you want but there’s other guys that see you. know your worth. and know you deserve much more than flowers.

Anonymous

#16 3d

What were you trying to accomplish telling me this?

Anonymous

#16 3d

Was this meant for the OP?

Anonymous

#13 3d

yes

Anonymous

#13 3d

Um this definitely isn’t your girlfriend buddy lol

Anonymous

sunshinec 3d

Amen to that

Anonymous

#18 3d

Genuine question, how is that emotional manipulation?

Anonymous

#28 3d

There ya go

Anonymous

OP 3d

then get a new man bestie

Anonymous

#31 3d

EXACTAMUNDO

Anonymous

#13 3d

but i have no man so 😣

Anonymous

#31 3d

It's ok. You'll got one hopefully

Anonymous

OP 3d

heres a shot in the dark from a guys POV. i can say if he cares about the quality of flowers it becomes a very time consuming task bc my girlfriend is similar, but it isn’t always feasable with class schedules and homework to pick out flowers that I feel are up to par to give to her. bought bouquets becomes expensive but hand picked can be very difficult when picking for another person bc when its for your partner you want it to be perfect and wouldn’t accept average/mediocre

Anonymous

sunshinec 3d

Maybe she likes flowers and wants them, above other things, to be something that is done for her more than once in a while. What’s wrong with that?

Anonymous

#21 3d

Those are NOT the same thing bro sexual needs ≠ emotional needs

Anonymous

#36 3d

I dooooooooooo

Anonymous

OP 3d

Well then yeah just tell him and make sure he knows it means a lot to you