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how do i know if a guy wants a relationship or just a hookup
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Anonymous 4d

Probably just assume they aren’t serious until they commit to you. I’m someone who takes dating seriously and I recently had a guy tell me they’re looking for long term and treat treated me like they wanted to date me and then they randomly flipped a switch and said they needed space or that they’re too busy (most of the time if they do that it’s because another girl has their attention) so honestly don’t take any guy seriously and make them chase you. Never chase a guy to prove your worth.

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Anonymous 4d

Ask him….

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Anonymous 4d

if he only talks to you at night

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

Even if they’re consistent in the beginning by talking to you and hanging out, truthfully it doesn’t even mean shit because at some point they switch up. Actions over words always & hold true to your values and boundaries because you don’t want a guy making you look like a fool because a lot of them be doing that unfortunately. In general, it’s hard to find genuine people now that want a real relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

I mean dont let that one experience ruin it for everyone imagine having that type of mentality and applying it to everyone just because of that one incident I dont think thats fair for other people that are truly genuine and caring.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

You also have girls or woman who do the same but it doesn't change the fact that everyone is the same in that aspect you just have to look for the right people who keep it 💯

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 22h

Not saying to have the same mentality for every person you meet, but it’s better to just be aware. You can have those doubts until they prove to you with actions they’re serious

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22h

Yes of course It just had came off a bit like you were saying all woman or men are the same😅 its really hard to find that 1% of kind and genuine people who actually do care about others

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 22h

Yes, doesn’t matter what gender, it is hard to find genuine people nowadays. I think the lesson is to not take anyone serious until they prove to you why you should.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22h

At the same time, I had this thought, if you go through life not taking people seriously, how would you ever recognize who’s genuinely real?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 21h

You don’t until they show you their true colors. A fake persona only lasts so long until you can see through it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21h

Hmm I see what your saying. Yet you have some people that are really good at hiding their true colors but once you experience that type of person then you can already manage to capture those who carry that fake persona immediately

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 21h

Yes 100%, plus you’re just more aware of what red flags to look for

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